F.L.Y - First Love Yourself

"I have been a seeker and I still am,

but I stopped asking the books and the stars.

I started listening to the teachings of my soul."

Many of us know intellectually that we need to be good to ourselves if we want to be happy. But it feels so hard. We are simultaneously the harsh judge and the lost, scared child who wants to stop feeling judged. It becomes a vicious cycle. It only stops when we step outside ourselves and observe how we get ourselves stuck. Our “inner critic” is the demanding, unsympathetic internal voice that narrates life with a negative filter, judging, criticizing, and berating everything we do (or don’t do). I haven’t yet learned to completely and permanently silence mine. I have, however, learned to limit its power over me so that it’s less pervasive, less convincing, less harmful, and sometimes even helpful.

We are not Unique..our five fingers are not identical. There will always be someone smarter, stronger, more attractive, more successful, healthier, and happier person than you. Just like there will always be someone who doesn’t have your potential, advantages, or opportunities.Love urself for the current oppurtunities u have,Love urself for ur Potential,Love urself for what you are.

Most people are passionate about something. They have things that really matter to them -- whether it be a cause or a job or a loved one or a hobby. Whatever it is that gets you really excited, focus on it. Embrace it. Run with it. One of the best ways you can learn to love yourself is to zero in on the things that make you the happiest and spend as much time as you can on them. It's okay to say how awesome you are every once and awhile. It's okay to admit that, wow, you did an amazing job on something or accomplished something you never thought you could. Celebrate yourself and your achievements and all of that self-love is sure to find you. Love your awesomeness because, seriously, you are awesome.

Have simple Principles to Love urself.  I can't do a thing about gravity. Even if I wanted to move to Jupiter or the moon for a change in gravity, it's inconceivable that I could. On the other hand, there are lots of things I can do to control my reaction to gravity. There are countless forces in our lives that are out of our control. That doesn't mean we can't do anything about how they influence our work and our life.My simple Principle is to Smile and make others to Smile.And it involves more Laughing till I get tears and making fun.And I Love Me for this attitude.So now sit back and think.Make a list. Grab your  notepad or even your hand and draw up a list of things you can do today to make you feel good.Keep adding to the list. Forgive yourself if you skip a couple and love yourself no matter how long or short the list is and how much you accomplish on it.Be good to yourself. You will train other people to do the same.

Remove your Mask...............

To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself. ~Thich Nhat Hanh

Many people I talk with feel that they have no joy in their life. They feel obligated to do so many things that they don’t have time for themselves and the things they really want to do.As a result, they feel drained, anxious, and resentful. With so many outside forces competing for their time, energy, and financial resources, is it really any wonder they feel this way?So what do we do? How can we remain balanced among this sea of obligations and commitments?The answer is to live consciously. By looking at each decision we are making and by asking ourselves, “Is this really what I want to be doing? Is this really what is right for me?” And then by making sure our actions stay in alignment with our true intentions.Saying yes when we mean no often causes us not to trust ourselves. It damages our confidence and lowers our self-esteem.

So why do we do it?We want to Please others all the Time and lose our Originality. 

Most people live their lives without being completely honest with themselves? We all have parts of our personalities we want to hide because we are afraid that if people see "the real you," they won't like it.

 I draw your attention to the principle of honesty. Why is it so many believe in the high and lofty principles of honesty, yet so few are willing to be strictly honest? People often try to hide who they truly are by trying to be normal and fit in with the crowd. To be honest with others about who you are in this world, you must first be honest with yourself.

Each lie, each deception, each act of dishonesty combines to create a monster that can destroy your character and your life.

Here are my tips on being true to your own self, and as always welcome your thoughts and encourage you to share your tips with Others!

Decide what values and beliefs you have that are important for you to live by.

Don’t compromise who you are for the sake of what others want or expect from you.

Check your gut feeling when it is telling you something feels not ‘right’ for you and act accordingly to stay true to yourself.

Let go of feeling guilty over what others want you to be.

Learn to embrace who you are and what you stand for.

What will you choose? Will you choose to stay in power by acting with the knowledge that you are responsible for every action in your life? Or will you continue to give your power away in order to feel valued and accepted in the eyes of another?The choice is yours :)

The Phoenix Spirit....

Don't worry about what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive and do that, because what the world needs is people who have come alive. 

                                                                                                     ~ Howard Thurman

As history claims, the phoenix began as a common bird that’s nest caught on fire by the hand of a god-like figure. As the fire started to consume the bird, instead of suffering, she decided to dance in the flames.

Eventually, the fire reduced the bird to ashes. However, this was not the end of that wise bird, for she knew her ending was only the beginning—the beginning of something greater than what she ever thought possible, a resurrection.

The seemingly done-for bird emerged, more powerful and more beautiful than ever. The phoenix represents a rebirth. A rebirth of the body, mind, and soul, that unleashes itself when the spirit is set free from its self-inflicted shackles.You can do something with what you enjoy doing, and it will eventually lead you to a place you never dreamed of. We all owe it to ourselves to put to use our gifts, because that’s why we have them!

Let me tell you a secret about the phoenix: she’s in all of us.

She’s there, just waiting to be unleashed. That fiery feeling inside of us, wanting to change our lives, feeling as though something is missing, this is the pre-condition of a radical change that is naturally starting to occur in your life.

It is the passion within you waiting to be expressed, and ultimately the ending of the old you. Of course, one of the scariest things in life is change, but to embrace change is to embrace life.

Passion is something we all need in order to feel alive. It is the reason we wake up in the morning. It's the thing that fuels us and keeps us motivated, happy and excited about life.

Not many of us are fortunate enough to have grown up knowing what our passion is. For most of us it comes in the form of a hobby, and it's not necessarily what makes us. We have our day jobs but there is always that thing that gets us even more excited than our daily jobs... the thing that may not necessarily give us a fixed income each month in order to get by, but something that makes us stay up late at night with excitement!

It takes a lot of hard work, patience and consistent persistence to get to the point where our passion fuels our income and when we finally get to that point, there is no guarantee that we will be happy. By nature, we are always going to want more and that's okay. As long as we keep the passion alive, nothing can stop us from having everything we have ever dreamed of while living a happy and fulfilling life!

I like to relate patience to the stability of a mountain. A mountain does not strain itself to keep from crumbling to the ground; it just happens that it does not fall and thus makes a mountain.We are like mountains. Our hearts beat, our cells fade and regrow, and our minds create tides of thoughts and hopes and dreams. But, like a mountain, we happen all at once without our conscious minds telling us to act.

I mean, is it you who tells your heart, “Beat, beat, beat, or else we’ll die!” Of course not. It just happens. And so it is when you find yourself trying to beat impatience out of your mind that you’ll only grow moreimpatient.

Thus, be like mountains, not like your conscious and incessant flow of thoughts and anxieties. Let them go. And before you take another step toward anything, just breathe and let your next action happen as naturally as your breath.

No one can know what truly makes you happy and alive except you. Eventually, your happiness will be enough to make anyone who doubted your choices come around—and your joy will be contagious to them, as well.Whether it be cooking, decorating, being with Pets or playing music, find a way to awaken that spark within you, and that glow will continue to grow.Through that growth you will start to awaken the phoenix within you, inspire others to do the same, and become stronger and more self-fulfilled than ever.

Tough Times Never Last - But Tough People Do

"Success is not measured by what a person accomplishes, but by the

opposition they have encountered, and by the courage with which they have

maintained the struggle against overwhelming odds" --Charles Lindberg

Don't pray for an easy life, without problems - pray to become a strong person. The higher you go in life, the more problems you will have to deal with.We don't just get the sweet out of life without the bitter - we'd like to, but we don't. The sun doesn't always shine; sometimes there are storms, tornadoes, earthquakes, car accidents, fires and death. No one escapes the problems of life. If it doesn't happen sooner in life, it will happen later. We can overcome just about any problem, obstacle, or adversity that life deals us - if we have a strong enough will. Where there is a will, there is a way. Create a "bull-dog" determination and a "burning desire," that will eventually move down all opposition.

How would you like to see a permanent end to all of your problems? We all have problems - and our problems only end when we do. The only people without problems are in the cemetery. I'd like to stick around, problems and all. How about you?No matter what problems you have to face today, there is a solution, because you have nothing to deal with but your own thoughts. As long as you think that your destiny is in the hands of other people, the situation is hopeless. You will need to confront your problems with courage, boldness and action.

There's an old Chinese saying that goes, "If you live with a problem long enough, it could eventually become a blessing." Within every adversity in life, there is always a seed of an equivalent or greater benefit. We have to look for it - find it - and act on it.We learn courage when we face danger. We learn patience when we endure suffering. We learn tenderness when we taste pain. We learn to praise true friends when false ones forsake us. We treasure health when illness strikes. We learn to prize freedom when we are in danger of losing it. Without trouble we would be like plants that have sprouted, grown, and been nurtured in the overprotected shelter of a hothouse - too tender ever to live in the open. How can you possibly become a strong person, if you have an easy life? The tougher it is, the tougher you have a chance to become - if you choose to fight back.

I face difficulties gladly the reason is I like to test my limits. Whether it’s learning new skills, climbing a tree/trekking or surviving a hardship, I want to see what I’m made of.Grab some paper and write down several of the difficulties have you faced in the past. Then write down next to each if you gladly faced these difficulties. If so, why? If not, why not? Write down what your attitude was, both at the beginning and at the end of each of the difficulties.Did you notice a pattern in the instances where you persevered? Was your attitude, especially at the start, a part of what helped you persevere? The handful of people I spoke with found that having a positive attitude was a big factor for them. How about when you didn’t persevere? How was your attitude those times, both at the start and at the end?

"The human will, that force unseen,

The offspring of a deathless soul,

Can hew a way to any goal,

Though walls of granite intervene.

Be not impatient in delay,

But wait as one who understands;

When spirit rises and commands,

The gods are ready to obey."

--James Allen

Some people are at the top of the ladder,some are in the middle,still more are at the bottom, and a whole lot more don't even know there is a ladder.Take up one idea.Make that one idea your life-think of it, dream of it,live on idea.Let the brain,muscles,nerves, every part of your body, be full of that idea,and just leave every other idea alone.This is the way to success. Stand up,be bold,be strong.Take the whole responsibility on your own shoulders,and know that you are the creator of your own destiny,All the strength and succor you want is within yourself.Therefore make your own future.

Come Out Of Comfort Zone

“You can only grow if you’re willing to feel awkward and uncomfortable when you try something new.” ~Brian Tracy

I like my comfort zone and I hate it. It’s safe, but if I stay there too long it starts to feel like a cage. No wild creature is happy in a cage, and we’re all wild creatures at heart.Sure, we like the reliability of being well fed, clothed, safe, and loved. It’s my theory though (formed just this second) that we are meant to hunt, to seek, to struggle, to engage with a world that offers no guarantees.Like a caged animal, we become depressed when we play it too safe. “Safe” offers no challenge, no growth, and no newness. Without those things we wither and die inside; we watch too much TV, we eat junk food, we numb out.There's no room for adventure and excitement in your comfort zone; in fact, over time you might feel overwhelmed and trapped by boredom and fear. Perhaps it's time to stretch those limits a little! Not only will your life become more exciting, but you'll also build confidence and improve your luck.

It only takes one second to be courageous. “Being courageous is more important than being successful.” I have that on my wall. I think it’s true. Taking small risks makes me feel alive. The other name for “fear” is “thrill.”Think about how long it actually takes to do anything you’ve ever wanted to do? It takes one second to make the decision.One second to click the submit button. One second to say hello. One second to smile. One second to jump in. One second to leave no chance for regrets. One second to hand over your two week notice. One second to say, “this isn’t working.” One second to believe. One second to be truthful.One second to choose. One second to play full out. It only takes one second to be courageous.Each day, we get to paint our own canvas. What will you be remembered for, soul sibling?

Replace “What will they think of me?”with“What’s really important to me?”

Say hello to your ego. And now, please ask him/her to keep quiet. When we find ourselves in moments where we might be exposed to internal feelings of nervousness, embarrassment, or anxiousness, we usually tend to run the other way.We've got this incredible internal system that was designed to protect us from real danger, the fight or flight response. Unfortunately, our brain can’t distinguish the difference between our fear of public speaking versus being chased by a bear.However, you have the ability to differentiate between the two situations. When you find yourself safely immersed within an uncomfortable situation, try sitting with it. Before you know it, the related negative feelings will disappear.

Give yourself permission to live uncomfortably. I dare you. When is the last time you felt excited about not knowing what was going to happen next? If you're deep in your comfort zone, it's probably been a while. Don't you miss it? Don't you miss the mixture of anticipation and anxiety that makes your heart flutter and stomach turn at the same time? Bring that feeling back into your life.

Life is an ECHO.....

We're so busy living our lives and carrying out day to day tasks, that we sometimes forget to stop and ask ourselves what we are really doing. What messages are we sending out as we carry out our tasks?Whether we are working on our computer, making a cup of coffee, washing the dishes, or running down to the store to get some milk - what is really going through our minds when we do these things? What vibrations are we sending out into the universe? Are we even aware of them?

Oftentimes when we carry out somewhat mundane tasks of the day, our minds tend to wander and we have no real focus on the task at hand. Perhaps while we're making that cup of coffee we are really just stressing about an e-mail we received earlier and wondering how we are going to respond.When we focus on the task at hand - when we make that cup of coffee... we just make a cup of coffee, and that's it. Perform the task mindfully as if it is a meditative ritual, as if it is the only thing in the world that matters right now and soon we will come to realize how at peace we can be in any given situation.

Throughout my life I have always been pursuing my purpose. I tried so many different things! I started, I stopped, time went by, then I started again, and stopped again, and so goes the story of my life.I never stop exploring new things.I never think to take a chance and experiment my findings.Don't ever just settle. Try something at least once. Do something every day that scares you! No matter the outcome, you will become a better, a stronger person... You will grow.Embrace your journey, come what may. Open your heart to the endless possibilities that lie in your wake. All you have to do is to put it out there, and the Universe will answer you. And you will be answered when the time is right.

Cool Breeze

Glowing stars

God's Glory

At every single chance

Cherish the mirage

Magical Moments

Close ur eyes

Chase ur Dreams

Destiny will Guide you!!!!

Create your own destiny, but if things don't work out the way you had hoped, don't fret. Instead remember that everything happens for a reason, everything happens the way it is meant to.Take comfort in knowing that at any given moment, you are always being looked after.You have this one life, this one opportunity, to really make it interesting. What's stopping you from doing what you want to do with complete focus, or better yet, trying out something for a while to see if it fits and then taking it to the next level?

The most important thing is to keep taking little chances. Not only does it make life more interesting, but it helps you see what you don't want, therefore being able to appreciate, and know what you  want to do in your life. All you have to do, is take a chance - a chance on life!So remember, If you want more love in the world, create more love in your heart. If you want more competence in your team, improve your competence.If you want to achieve something start keeping baby steps right from now No matter how shorter the distance you travel but start your journey.Baby steps are so important - it reminds us not to rush. It eliminates the feeling of being overwhelmed and having to make things happen right away. It reminds us to be patient and trust. This relationship applies to everything, in all aspects of life; life will give you back everything you have given to it. Your life is not a coincidence. It's a reflection of you!"

Edging God Out --- EGO

           One of the most destructive of creative sins is an over-inflated ego. When many people hear the word “ego,” they immediately think of the know-it-all manager charging into the room and insisting that everyone bend their life and work around his every whim. This is certainly one exhibition of ego, but there are less obvious types that we must be careful to avoid if we want to do our best creative work consistently. You've probably noticed the word AMBULANCE written backwards on the front of a vehicle so that a person seeing it in their rear-view mirror can read it. When you look into a mirror, what you see is backwards, too. Your right hand is your left, your eyes are reversed. You understand that this is a backward view that you are seeing and you make the appropriate adjustments. You do not confuse reality with the image in the mirror.The ego-idea of yourself is very much like the mirror example, without the adjustments. Your ego wants you to look for the inside on the outside. The outer illusion is the major preoccupation of the ego.

Ego Trap #1: Playing the victim

I recall several instances as a child when playing a game with others that there was a disagreement over the rules. When the argument got heated, the disagreeable party would inevitably say something like “Fine! Then I’m taking my ball and going home!” They would rather opt-out of the game than be flexible enough to find a compromise and continue playing.

 

While very few people would actually be so obvious about their protest in a work context, the results can be comparable. It plays out in a much more subtle, behind-the-scenes kind of way. When we’re playing the victim, our internal dialogue goes something like “if they won’t listen to my ideas, then I’m just not going to offer them any more” or “there’s no use in trying very hard on this project, because my efforts won’t be valued anyway.” At first, this may not seem like a form of ego, but it is. You are putting your own need for recognition ahead of the work and ahead of the mission of your team.Unfortunately, this kind of disengagement means that you are not putting yourself fully into the work in front of you, and thus are abdicating your contribution. You are allowing someone else to control your efforts rather than taking charge of your own engagement. You must stay alert to the “victim” voice inside your head and not allow it to cause you to withhold your best work.

Ego Trap #2: Aggressive defense of your “turf”

There is a vast chasm between confidence in your abilities, and an over-inflated ego. Ego says “I can do no wrong”, whereas confidence says “I can get this right.” Confidence says “I’m valuable” while ego says “I’m invaluable.” This is a critical difference in mindset. Be aware when you are generally contributing and when you are simply trying to protect the status. Losing some of your “turf” may seem scary, but it’s really an opportunity to stay one step ahead.

Ego Trap #3: Being easily offended

Have you ever met “that person” who perceives everything as a personal attack? It doesn't matter what you say to them or how nicely you say it, they will somehow twist it into an insult. Similarly, some people treat any disagreement as an indication that you are questioning their competence. Both of these are subtle displays of inflated ego.

If we want growth and maturity, we must. Leave the Ego and welcome all aspects of being human, Love and appreciate each and every experience. What we gather during that time, in forms of lessons and insight, will determine the rate in which we grow and how deeply we feel toward ourselves and others. Life is definitely a journey. Be wise and pay attention. Enjoy Life.