Edging God Out --- EGO

           One of the most destructive of creative sins is an over-inflated ego. When many people hear the word “ego,” they immediately think of the know-it-all manager charging into the room and insisting that everyone bend their life and work around his every whim. This is certainly one exhibition of ego, but there are less obvious types that we must be careful to avoid if we want to do our best creative work consistently. You've probably noticed the word AMBULANCE written backwards on the front of a vehicle so that a person seeing it in their rear-view mirror can read it. When you look into a mirror, what you see is backwards, too. Your right hand is your left, your eyes are reversed. You understand that this is a backward view that you are seeing and you make the appropriate adjustments. You do not confuse reality with the image in the mirror.The ego-idea of yourself is very much like the mirror example, without the adjustments. Your ego wants you to look for the inside on the outside. The outer illusion is the major preoccupation of the ego.

Ego Trap #1: Playing the victim

I recall several instances as a child when playing a game with others that there was a disagreement over the rules. When the argument got heated, the disagreeable party would inevitably say something like “Fine! Then I’m taking my ball and going home!” They would rather opt-out of the game than be flexible enough to find a compromise and continue playing.

 

While very few people would actually be so obvious about their protest in a work context, the results can be comparable. It plays out in a much more subtle, behind-the-scenes kind of way. When we’re playing the victim, our internal dialogue goes something like “if they won’t listen to my ideas, then I’m just not going to offer them any more” or “there’s no use in trying very hard on this project, because my efforts won’t be valued anyway.” At first, this may not seem like a form of ego, but it is. You are putting your own need for recognition ahead of the work and ahead of the mission of your team.Unfortunately, this kind of disengagement means that you are not putting yourself fully into the work in front of you, and thus are abdicating your contribution. You are allowing someone else to control your efforts rather than taking charge of your own engagement. You must stay alert to the “victim” voice inside your head and not allow it to cause you to withhold your best work.

Ego Trap #2: Aggressive defense of your “turf”

There is a vast chasm between confidence in your abilities, and an over-inflated ego. Ego says “I can do no wrong”, whereas confidence says “I can get this right.” Confidence says “I’m valuable” while ego says “I’m invaluable.” This is a critical difference in mindset. Be aware when you are generally contributing and when you are simply trying to protect the status. Losing some of your “turf” may seem scary, but it’s really an opportunity to stay one step ahead.

Ego Trap #3: Being easily offended

Have you ever met “that person” who perceives everything as a personal attack? It doesn't matter what you say to them or how nicely you say it, they will somehow twist it into an insult. Similarly, some people treat any disagreement as an indication that you are questioning their competence. Both of these are subtle displays of inflated ego.

If we want growth and maturity, we must. Leave the Ego and welcome all aspects of being human, Love and appreciate each and every experience. What we gather during that time, in forms of lessons and insight, will determine the rate in which we grow and how deeply we feel toward ourselves and others. Life is definitely a journey. Be wise and pay attention. Enjoy Life.

Formula For Success

 “Of course there is no formula for success except, perhaps, an unconditional acceptance of life and what it brings.” ~Arthur Rubinstein

Life's too short to wake up in the morning with regrets. So ... Love the people who treat you right. Pray for the ones who don't.   Life is ten percent what you make it and ninety percent how you take it :-)Many people are like garbage trucks. They run around full of garbage, full of frustration, full of anger, and full of disappointment. As their garbage piles up, they need a place to dump it and sometimes they'll dump it on you. Don't take it personally.Just smile, wave, wish them well, and move on. Don't take their garbage and spread it to other people at work, at home, or on the streets. The bottom line is that successful people do not let garbage trucks take over their day.They know to Balance between the heart and their brain.

You see, sometimes you’re an observer of other people’s lives and you think you’ll never experience what they’re living, whether it be a positive or negative situation. You think, “That will never happen to me.”Part of the real beauty of life is that it’s unpredictable. Nothing is permanent, everything changes; and of course, a lot of things can happen that will transform who you are and have an impact on your life. The problem is that we need to cultivate the ability to truly accept whatever comes and embrace it.

We need to develop the habit of looking at whatever happens through a positive mindset, instead of a negative and defeatist one.Of course, life will bring many challenges, and it’s not easy to embrace them when we’re suffering and wishing those things would have never happened. But if we start cultivating acceptance in our lives right now, we’ll likely cope with future crises in a different way and view them from a different perspective. We will accept instead of resisting.

Choose not to judge what happens to you. Instead believe that everything happens for a reason and that better things will always follow. That’s the beginning of true acceptance. You never know what can happen in the future. Nothing in this life is permanent, everything changes. And maybe someday you can have what you desire, but if today you can't, you need to let it go and accept that right now you can't have what you want. It's about accepting what is happening right now.I know it’s hard to practice acceptance when you deeply wish things aren’t the way they are. But the truth is, sometimes we can’t change our reality, even though we try.So instead of staring at the closed door in front of us, or getting tired and bruised while we try to break it down, let’s turn around and see how many other windows we have open.

The Precious Gift

People who have a lot of money and no time we call 'rich'. People who have time but no money we call 'poor'. Yet the most precious gifts--care,friendship, time with loved ones--grow only in the sweet soil of unproductive time.

Take a look a your life’s priorities as well as your family’s. Do you all have crazy schedules where you can’t fit in any quality time for people around you? Reevaluate what’s important and necessary in those schedules. In daily life the most precious thing you can give someone is your Time, because when you are giving somebody your time you are giving something that would never come back in your life. This is the piece of your life, you own it. You can never create it in future. The time you give to somebody in your life is exclusively for that person at that point of life.Yet sometimes the idea and value of giving and receiving time is forgotten or unrecognized. Think about it.

When I write this post I remember a story I read Recently.

I arrived at the address and honked the horn. After waiting a few minutes I honked again. Since this was going to be my last ride of my shift I thought about just driving away, but instead I put the car in park and walked up to the door and knocked.. 'Just a minute', answered a frail, elderly voice. I could hear something being dragged across the floor.After a long pause, the door opened. A small woman in her 90's stood before me. She was wearing a print dress and a pillbox hat with a veil pinned on it, like somebody out of a 1940's movie.By her side was a small nylon suitcase. The apartment looked as if no one had lived in it for years. All the furniture was covered with sheets.There were no clocks on the walls, no knickknacks or utensils on the counters. In the corner was a cardboard box filled with photos and glassware.

'Would you carry my bag out to the car?' she said. I took the suitcase to the cab, then returned to assist the woman.She took my arm and we walked slowly toward the curb.She kept thanking me for my kindness. 'It's nothing', I told her.. 'I just try to treat my passengers the way I would want my mother to be treated.''Oh, you're such a good boy, she said. When we got in the cab, she gave me an address and then asked, 'Could you drive through downtown?'

'It's not the shortest way,' I answered quickly..'Oh, I don't mind,' she said. 'I'm in no hurry. I'm on my way to a hospice.I looked in the rear-view mirror. Her eyes were glistening. 'I don't have any family left,' she continued in a soft voice..'The doctor says I don't have very long.' I quietly reached over and shut off the meter.'What route would you like me to take?' I asked.

For the next two hours, we drove through the city. She showed me the building where she had once worked as an elevator operator.We drove through the neighborhood where she and her husband had lived when they were newlyweds She had me pull up in front of a furniture warehouse that had once been a ballroom where she had gone dancing as a girl.Sometimes she'd ask me to slow in front of a particular building or corner and would sit staring into the darkness, saying nothing.As the first hint of sun was creasing the horizon, she suddenly said, 'I'm tired.Let's go now'.We drove in silence to the address she had given me.

It was a low building, like a small convalescent home, with a driveway that passed under a portico.Two orderlies came out to the cab as soon as we pulled up. They were solicitous and intent, watching her every move.They must have been expecting her.I opened the trunk and took the small suitcase to the door. The woman was already seated in a wheelchair.'How much do I owe you?' She asked, reaching into her purse.'Nothing,' I said. 'You have to make a living,' she answered.'There are other passengers,' I responded. Almost without thinking, I bent and gave her a hug.She held onto me tightly.'You gave an old woman a little moment of joy,' she said. 'Thank you.'

I squeezed her hand, and then walked into the dim morning light.. Behind me, a door shut.It was the sound of the closing of a life..I didn't pick up any more passengers that shift. I drove aimlessly lost in thought. For the rest of that day,I could hardly talk.What if that woman had gotten an angry driver,or one who was impatient to end his shift? What if I had refused to take the run, or had honked once, then driven away?On a quick review, I don't think that I have done anything more important in my life.We're conditioned to think that our lives revolve around great moments.But great moments often catch us unaware-beautifully wrapped in what others may consider a small one.

Of all the things you value in life virtually everything, within reason, is unlimited. You can always make more money, buy more flowers or get more food, Likes or followers or friends on Twitter or Facebook. But time? It’s a rare gem that should be coddled and used wisely.Life passes by too quickly to ignore opportunities to connect with good souls around us. Whether it’s a few minutes or many days, choose to spend some quality time for mankind.

Unconditional Love............

“The most important thing in this world is to learn to give out love, and let it come in.” ~Morrie Schwartz.

Love is a strange and beautiful thing.I always thought I knew what love meant. I grew up hearing the words all the time. It was on Tv,movies in books and magazines, and people all around were saying it.I thought I knew how to love. I mean, I told my teddy bear that I loved him because he kept me safe at night. I told my sister that I loved her, only if she was nice to me and would play the games that I wanted.But If I didn't get gifts form my friends for my birthday or if my sister denied to give her pearl chain to me or If my parents did not get me dress in my favourite pink colour I have felt indifferently.  I seemed to only love the people and things that would give me something in return and that would allow life to go on the way that I wanted it to.

There are times when we say harsh things to people we love just because things aren’t going our way, or because they made us unhappy.In these situations, we find ourselves putting provisions on love. We attach it to how others are acting, and whether they reciprocate the feelings we give to them. We attach it to the circumstances and emotions that go on in a single moment.We find ourselves holding back, fearful of being hurt, afraid to sacrifice a piece of ourselves. But what if we looked beyond all this and just loved?Love because you’re grateful for the things someone has done for you. Love because someone needs you, needs a friend to lean on during their struggles. Love even when it is difficult, even when your mind tells you that you shouldn’t.

Life is full of imperfect things and imperfect people. I’m not the best at hardly anything, and I forget birthdays and anniversaries just like everyone else. But what I’ve learned over the years is that learning to accept each others faults – and choosing to celebrate each others differences – is one of the most important keys to creating a healthy, growing, and lasting relationship.Love by looking beyond people’s faults, struggles, and whatever pain and hardships that life may bring. This unconditional love is something that can so easily be given if we recognize it, and that can change someone else’s life completely. When we love and treat each other with the utmost care and attention, the little things that bother us seem far less overwhelming.What would the world be like if we stopped looking to get something in return, and just loved unconditionally, for the happiness and inner peace it brings us all?

Create your Own Reality!!!

If you are a poet, you will see clearly that there is a cloud floating in a sheet of paper. Without a cloud, there will be no rain; without rain, the trees cannot grow; and without trees, we cannot make paper. The cloud is essential for the paper to exist. If the cloud is not here, the sheet of paper cannot be here either. So we can say that the cloud and the paper inter-are. "Interbeing" is a word that is not in the dictionary yet, but if we combine the prefix "inter-" with the verb "to be," we have a new verb, inter-be.

"If we look into this sheet of paper even more deeply, we can see the sunshine in it. Without sunshine, the forest cannot grow. In fact, nothing can grow without sunshine. And so, we know that the sunshine is also in this sheet of paper. The paper and the sunshine inter-are. And if we continue to look, we can see the logger who cut the tree and brought it to the mill to be transformed into paper. And we see wheat. We know the logger cannot exist without his daily bread, and therefore the wheat that became his bread is also in this sheet of paper. The logger's father and mother are in it too. When we look in this way, we see that without all of these things, this sheet of paper cannot exist."Start Creating your Own Reality.Pave way to your Out of Box Thinking.Spend A Peaceful Evening in your Garden.In a Place full of Fresh Flowers.Inhale the Fresh air.Exhale your Tensions.

Yard full of Butterflies

Decesive Tarentella of Birds

Glister Garden Green

Lively Whirly Wind

Perfumed Magical Hour

Glass full of Soup

More than enough to

Enjoy the weekend Evening!!!!!!!!!!!!

The smile of a kid can bring out the rainbow colours in your mind.Expand your thinking.That smile you were carrying in your face in your child hood.where did you lose it?How did you Lose it? Stop worrying.Start Loving the nature,Start Loving the environment.When it Rains we rush and get and Umbrella and protect ourself.Enjoy the Rain Let the Rain drop touch you face,rest in your eye lids,cherish the moments in your heart.Live the Life of a child for a moment.You will get back all those colours in your Life which you were Longing for!!



Pearl of Price
with new sunrise
Million Dollared Ride
With inner joy Pride
Matchless Pleasure
I always Treasure
No chance to frown
As I am wearing my Invisible Crown!!!



If you feel Lonely Lie down and Look into the dark sky.The Twinkling stars can narrate you the story of nature.The Cool breeze will touch your heart and wipes off your fears and tears. Recognition puts us back in the driver's seat, piloting our own craft and no longer at the mercy of circumstance. That we had been constantly crashing into things was simply because we weren't steering; what was steering was our automatic, unexamined, interpretive stance in relationship to reality, and we kept hitting the wall, clueless. So it is an empowering and transformational shift to take responsibility in that way.Thus we have choice and power not over what's actually out there or what happens to us, but rather, how we see and interpret what's out there and what happens.Create your Own Reality!!!!

Are You TrustWorthy???

When we are trustworthy people can rely on us. We can be counted on to do what we say we will do. If we make commitments, we follow through on them.keeping promises is very important. Don't make promises you can't keep.

Being trustworthy also means that our outer words are aligned with our intentions. We seek to maintain a level of transparency that lets other people feel clear about who we are and what they can expect from us. We treat the trust of others as a sacred gift, knowing that it in trusting us they make themselves vulnerable and that we have the power to harm them.Being trustworthy doesn't mean we will never let others down. Rather, it is a attitude and a pattern of behavior that honors the trust placed in us.

A teacher showed three toys to a student and asked them to find out the differences. All the three toys were identical in their shape, size and material. After keen observation, the student observed holes in the toys. 1st toy it had holes in the ears. 2nd toy had holes in ear and mouth. 3rd toy had only one hole in one ear. Students put the needle in the ear hole of 1st toy. The needle came out from the other ear. In the 2nd toy, when the needle was put in the ear it came out of mouth. In the 3rd toy, when the needle was put in, the needle did not come out.

Teacher explained : First toy represented those people around you who give an impression that they are listening to you and care for you. But they just pretend to do so. After listening, as the needle comes out from the next ear, the things you said to them by counting on them are gone. So be careful while you are speaking to these type of people around you, who don’t care for you.

Second toy represented those people who listen to you and give an impression that they care for you. But as in the toy, these people will tell your confidential things to others for their own purpose. Third toy represented kinds of people who will keep the trust you have in them. They are the ones who you can count on. They are the one’s whose friendship is to be cherished.So Which Category you Belong to?

Honesty is the best and the most expensive gift you can give to someone.It brings trust. It makes you trustworthy, which is priceless.Remember, trust cannot be purchased, learned or acquired.It has to be earned.Trust based on Honesty is the foundation of strong and bonding relationships.Lead a Honest & Happy Life.Because If you tell the truth you don’t have to remember anything ~ Mark Twain

Little Boy and his mother were crossing a bridge.The mother was kind of scared so she asked her little one,‘Sweetheart, please hold my hand so that you don’t fall into the river.’The little Boy said, ‘No, Mom. You hold my hand.’‘What’s the difference?’ Asked the puzzled Mother..‘There’s a big difference,’ replied the little Boy.‘If I hold your hand and something happens to me, chances are that I may let your hand go.But if you hold my hand, I know for sure that no matter what happens, you will never let my hand go.’In any relationship, the essence of trust is not in its bind, but in its bond.Hold the hand of the person who loves you rather than expecting them to hold yours:)

When you get to know some one Loves you very Deeply you will feel happy! But Being Trusted will Give you Real Happiness than being Loved!! Becoming a trustworthy person is within the reach of anyone. It is a powerful and essential character trait that can take you far in every kind of relationship you make. Trustworthiness starts with you, no matter who you are. It doesn't matter what clothes you wear, your level of education, family, connections, or your wealth or popularity. It starts with the words you say, the everyday actions you do, and the promises you keep. You can't buy it. You can't pretend to have it. You have to prove it.

The Handedness Mystery!!!

               Humans are the only species to show a strong bias in handedness, with around 90% of people being right-handed. The cause of this bias remains largely a mystery .Researchers haven’t quite figured that out yet, but some believe it’s a complex collaboration between genes and environment. There isn’t a distinct gene that indicates left-handedness; however, there is a difference between brain capabilities in righties and lefties.

A genetic study has identified a biological process that influences whether we are right-handed or left-handed. Scientists found correlations between handedness and a network of genes involved in establishing left-right asymmetry in developing embryos.The most strongly associated, statistically significant variant with handedness is located in the gene PCSK6, which is involved in the early establishment of left and right in the growing embryo.

                                       

The connection between the left brain and the right brain is "somewhat larger and better connected in left-handers. So what does this mean? It could mean that left-handers have a slight advantage in sports, gaming and other activities in which players face large volumes of stimuli being thrown at them simultaneously or in quick succession. Theoretically, they could more easily use both hemispheres of the brain to manage th­at stimuli, resulting in faster overall processing and response time.  

                                              

                                    

It could also mean that when one hemisphere of the brain got overloaded and started to slow down, the other hemisphere could more easily pick up the slack without missing a beat. Experts also theorize that left-handed people could fare better mentally as they move into old age and overall brain processing starts to slow down: With a greater ability for one brain hemisphere to quickly back up the tasks of the other, left-handed seniors could retain mental quickness longer than their right-handed counterparts.

Some researchers believe lefties are capable of more complex reasoning, which is why there's a particularly high number of lefty Noble Prize winners, artists, writers, architects, musicians, and mathematicians. Others theorize that lefties are forced to find solutions in order to survive in a right-dominated world, which means they experience extra mental resilience. 

Strengths of Righties vs. Lefties

Right-handed AKA left-brained people tend to be have higher

•  Logic,Analysis,Sequencing,Linear,Mathematics,Language

•  Facts,Thinking in words,Remembering words of songs,Computation

Left-handed AKA right-brained people tend to have higher abilities in

• Creativity,Imagination,Holistic Thinking,Intuition,Arts (Motor skills)

• Rhythm (Beats),Non-verbal expression,Expressing feelings,Visualization,Remember the tune of songs,Daydreaming.

           Yet a number of questions remain, including whether there are selective advantages for right over left handedness that are strong enough to explain why almost the entire human species skews to the right, and is such advantages exist, why 15% of humans remain stubbornly left-handed.The handedness mystery continues!!!